scotsandyboy Posted December 10, 2015 Share Posted December 10, 2015 I had similar problems when I was coaching my sons team. I eventually called a meeting of all parents and told them they weren't allowed to give instructions to the kids. I explained the effects it had and pointed out where parents talking pish had cost the team goals. The majority were fine with it but there were a couple of roasters who just couldn't help themselves. I offered to let them take the team since they obviously wanted to be coaches and this finally hit home with them as they really didn't want to take the team themselves. I did exactly the same with the parents. Told them what was expected and that if it happened during a game then I would give them one warning. A second time and I would substitute their boy. Funnily enough I've never had to carry out that threat yet ...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbcmfc Posted December 10, 2015 Share Posted December 10, 2015 If that was the case Jamie would have booted my boy out the class months ago If he can put up with my wee fellas uncle, he must be pretty patient! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimstroma Posted December 10, 2015 Share Posted December 10, 2015 We had an U13 game abandoned at 2-2 with 15mins to go because a parent on the opposite side would not leave when the referee asked him to for his foul and abusive language. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AberdeenAngus Posted December 10, 2015 Share Posted December 10, 2015 Been involved with coaching boys football too. Parents without doubt are the biggest problem. Have come across more than a fair share of numpty coaches too. Some of their shouts are ridiculous. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robroysboy Posted December 10, 2015 Share Posted December 10, 2015 Well apart from the 'so when do you actually go to lectures?' bit. Lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Glasgowmancity Posted December 11, 2015 Share Posted December 11, 2015 If he can put up with my wee fellas uncle, he must be pretty patient! I was talking to him last night at the girls training Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kmcca5 Posted December 11, 2015 Author Share Posted December 11, 2015 Just signed the boy up and offered to volunteer as a helper. Apparently they will pay for coaching corses if I want to commit. Sounds like fun! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
adamntg Posted December 11, 2015 Share Posted December 11, 2015 The coaching courses are fun. Do it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kmcca5 Posted December 11, 2015 Author Share Posted December 11, 2015 The coaching courses are fun. Do it. With my ankle fukt the way it is this could be the only way to keep involved with football. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Huddersfield Posted December 12, 2015 Share Posted December 12, 2015 Definitely do the coaching course & if you get the chance do some ref. training as well. I amazed myself at how many rules of the game I didn't properly understand (& for a while was able to pontificate to those sat near me about 'ah well you see, what the rule actually says is...'), but more seriously I think you learn a lot of transferrable skills as well around managing difficult situations, conflict resolution & so on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kmcca5 Posted December 12, 2015 Author Share Posted December 12, 2015 Took the boy this morning, he's quite shy and as he didn't know any of the kids I was a bit worried he'd hang on to my legs. Not a bit of it he got stuck straight in. Extremely proud of him. He said the best bit was meeting new people. Almost brought a tear to my eye. The coaches were great with the kids and enthusiastic about me helping out as well. This could be the beginning of a beautiful relationship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnnyshaker Posted January 15, 2016 Share Posted January 15, 2016 How's he getting on with it? Still going? I've got the wee man (he's only 2 next week) on the waiting list for little kickers. I'm really looking forward to it, I'll be stunned if he doesn't like it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbcmfc Posted January 15, 2016 Share Posted January 15, 2016 (edited) How's he getting on with it? Still going? I've got the wee man (he's only 2 next week) on the waiting list for little kickers. I'm really looking forward to it, I'll be stunned if he doesn't like it! Got his first session tomorrow morning.I think he'll like it. Not shown a great interest in football, but will like running about with other kids. Edited January 15, 2016 by sbcmfc Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Glasgowmancity Posted January 15, 2016 Share Posted January 15, 2016 Got his first session tomorrow morning. I think he'll like it. Not shown a great interest in football, but will like running about with other kids. Soccerworld? If so he'll love it - pity you can't make a Tuesday or the wee man would get to play with one of your hero's nephew Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbcmfc Posted January 15, 2016 Share Posted January 15, 2016 Soccerworld? If so he'll love it - pity you can't make a Tuesday or the wee man would get to play with one of your hero's nephew I didn't know Diego Maradonna had a sister from easterhouse! Yeah, soccerworld one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Glasgowmancity Posted January 15, 2016 Share Posted January 15, 2016 I didn't know Diego Maradonna had a sister from easterhouse! Nah, more Motherwell/Scotland level Yeah, soccerworld one. Cool - won't be there tomorrow, but my wee boy's birthday party is at the soft play next Saturday so might run into you then Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slinky Posted January 15, 2016 Share Posted January 15, 2016 Got his first session tomorrow morning. I think he'll like it. Not shown a great interest in football, but will like running about with other kids. my 3 year old has been going to the mini kickers at Kilmarnock. He really enjoys it. It's basically running about with other kids the same age where some of the activities involve a ball. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbcmfc Posted January 15, 2016 Share Posted January 15, 2016 Nah, more Motherwell/Scotland level Cool - won't be there tomorrow, but my wee boy's birthday party is at the soft play next Saturday so might run into you then I see you get a free hour in the soft play with your football (which is pretty good value compared to some of the other things he goes to), so good chance we'll be there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Glasgowmancity Posted January 15, 2016 Share Posted January 15, 2016 I see you get a free hour in the soft play with your football (which is pretty good value compared to some of the other things he goes to), so good chance we'll be there. Yeah & it's a good soft play for that age Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Libertador-de-Escocia Posted January 24, 2016 Share Posted January 24, 2016 Interesting discussion. My son is 7. Plays for a good club. But the coaches are parents who are very intense. I've heard them slagging off abilities of other kids which I think is unacceptable. They are all good players that deserve an equal amount of coaching and encouragement. I played semi proffesional from 18 to 35, and have my children's coaching badge. So I feel I could use the experience I have to help the kids starting out in football. But my experience so far is of parents who want to take the teams to give their own kids every advantage. I've now been approached by another club who would like me to get involved. But it would mean having to move my son from a strong team to a lesser one for the beginning at least. Which although I think it would hopefully benefit him in the long run, he might not understand why I had moved him teams. Decisions.... There is a lot of desperation from parents already about their kids getting signed up for professional clubs which doesn't help either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iainmac1 Posted January 24, 2016 Share Posted January 24, 2016 Interesting discussion. My son is 7. Plays for a good club. But the coaches are parents who are very intense. I've heard them slagging off abilities of other kids which I think is unacceptable. They are all good players that deserve an equal amount of coaching and encouragement. I played semi proffesional from 18 to 35, and have my children's coaching badge. So I feel I could use the experience I have to help the kids starting out in football. But my experience so far is of parents who want to take the teams to give their own kids every advantage. I've now been approached by another club who would like me to get involved. But it would mean having to move my son from a strong team to a lesser one for the beginning at least. Which although I think it would hopefully benefit him in the long run, he might not understand why I had moved him teams. Decisions.... There is a lot of desperation from parents already about their kids getting signed up for professional clubs which doesn't help either. Why do you have to coach your own kid? Can he not stay at his current club but you coach a different one? I coach a team here and some parents do annoy me, as well as some other coaches. There is a tendency for coaches to focus or fixate on their own kid if they are in the team there coaching. Also it clouds their judgement a lot as they want to see their kid playing all the time. Might be healthier sometimes for parents not to coach their own kids if possible. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Huddersfield Posted January 24, 2016 Share Posted January 24, 2016 Interesting discussion. My son is 7. Plays for a good club. But the coaches are parents who are very intense. I've heard them slagging off abilities of other kids which I think is unacceptable. They are all good players that deserve an equal amount of coaching and encouragement. I played semi proffesional from 18 to 35, and have my children's coaching badge. So I feel I could use the experience I have to help the kids starting out in football. But my experience so far is of parents who want to take the teams to give their own kids every advantage. I've now been approached by another club who would like me to get involved. But it would mean having to move my son from a strong team to a lesser one for the beginning at least. Which although I think it would hopefully benefit him in the long run, he might not understand why I had moved him teams. Decisions.... There is a lot of desperation from parents already about their kids getting signed up for professional clubs which doesn't help either. It's only a personal opinion but my son almost always gravitated to weaker sides even when he had a chance to sign on for better ones. It's not that he doesn't like winning but I think he always preferred th funof playing to the pressure of those teams. He's now on the periphery of semi-pro & it's clear that whilst being at the kids teams that had Level 2 coaches & kept the parents out of it might have helped a bit, it's nothing that can't be caught up on if they really want to push on. I knew probably around a dozen lads that made it to either the Huddersfield or Leeds academies or development squads & inevitably perhaps only one that I can think of made it through the system. And of those that didn't, all but the odd one stopped playing football altogether afterwards. So for me, I'd make it fun first because you can bet your bottom dollar those desperate parents will all be cursing how their kid wasn't given a chance, could have & should have in a few years time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jock strap Posted January 24, 2016 Share Posted January 24, 2016 Just back from watching ma wee man playing this morning. He plays for a very good team with experienced coaches who get the positives from the young lads. I've been asked to go for my coaching badges as I help out when I can but I can't devote to every week through work commitments. I agree that parents do get agitated, I was today as we got beat for the first time this season but I know how to keep it contained. Before every match, I discuss tactics and the ethos of defend together and attack together but the most important thing for him is to have fun and enjoy himself. After the match, we discuss the positives and what could be worked on, never calling anything negative. I always end with the question, did you have fun, because at this early age, I think that's the most important thing for young kids playing football. Fun. It's great winning, but I feel great watching the kids run around smiling and laughing. Time is not of the essence at this early age to get 'signed up', it's all about enjoying it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Libertador-de-Escocia Posted January 24, 2016 Share Posted January 24, 2016 Why do you have to coach your own kid? Can he not stay at his current club but you coach a different one? It's not so much that I want to be coaching his team. If he had coaches who I thought would be fair to all the kids, not put too much pressure on at 7 year old and put enjoyment over winning and performance, then I wouldn't consider moving him at all. It's only a personal opinion but my son almost always gravitated to weaker sides even when he had a chance to sign on for better ones. It's not that he doesn't like winning but I think he always preferred th funof playing to the pressure of those teams. I can see what you are saying. I think that can be a positive also. It's just getting that across to a 7 year old. Winning and performance can come later. At the moment I just want my son to enjoy football , fitness and sport in general so it hopefully he keeps it going in future. Appreciated your comments. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnnyshaker Posted February 17, 2016 Share Posted February 17, 2016 Finally got the wee man into Little Kickers, starts next Saturday. Something to get us out the house on a Saturday morning if nothing else! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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